Words from the Heart for Monday June 28th, 2021
Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.
Proverbs 18:13 (NLT)
It is a truism that many Canadians love to spout off about the weather but the reasons behind our predilection for such exchanges often go unstated. According to David Phillips, senior climatologist at Environment Canada, much of our apparent obsession arises from the fact that we live in such a large, geographically diverse country with weather patterns that can vary widely from province to province, season to season and even day to day. “Our temperatures vary from 40C to –50C so when you get that, there is never a dull moment,” Phillips says.
Marriages often break down because of failure to communicate well. Most of the time when we speak with someone else, particularly if the conversation is challenging, we tend not to listen carefully to what is being said in order to process that point the other person is making. Instead, we tune out quickly, focusing instead on how we are going to make our point. So, counsellors teach something called active listening. As the other person is speaking, listen carefully in order to repeat back the point they have been making. Then take time to craft your response. King Solomon, one of the wisest men ever to live, took note of those who didn’t practice active listening. In Proverbs 18:13 he writes: “Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.” I don’t like to look foolish when I speak with others. I’m sure you don’t either. So, take time to actively listen to what someone else is speaking about, process what they are saying, focus on what they are saying. Then and only then, craft your wise and thoughtful response. This is wise advice for all of us.
These have been words from the heart.